My husband and I eloped!

One thing that my husband and I have in is that we both are hopeless romantics. Based on our past relationship experiences, I can tell that we both enjoy companionship and crave for long-lasting love. So when we first met, we had an instant connection. It was as if we knew that whatever we went through in the past, they have led us to one another. Mind you, my husband is from California and I’m from North Carolina.

Our first night together in San Diego, CA

Within a few months of us getting to know each other, my husband brought up marriage. I was shocked, excited, and confused all at once. I was shocked because “Damn, he fine! And he see me as wifey material?” I was excited because after multiple failed relationships, I finally I met someone who have the same goals, values, and experiences as me. I was confused because although I wanted to marry him, I was unsure of what the future holds for us. A couple of weeks into constantly thinking and talking to myself internally, I came up with one answer, “Why not?!”

At that time, “love” was a vague term for both my husband and me. We haven’t met in person yet, but knew that we wanted to marry each other. So we scheduled October 15, 2015 to get married at the courthouse and I booked my flight to California. October 10th, I set out my journey to finally meet my husband-to-be. I was nervous and excited. All that we have talked about and anticipated was about to come true.

After a few days of getting to each other and spending time together, he “proposed” to me at Balboa Park the day before our ceremony at the courthouse. It was at night and he was acting quite awkward. I was giving him a hard time right before we arrive, but he handled it well and pulled off the proposal. Although I saw it coming, it a nice surprised and weirdly romantic. We both laughed it off and knew that we were definitely meant to be.

The next day, we got ready and went to the courthouse. The anticipation was settling in, and the only thing that ran through my mind was “Wow, I’m crazy. We both are crazy!” Throughout the ceremony, we both were giggling and smiling in awe that we both are actually doing this. In no time, the ceremony was over. Like what?!?!?!? WE ARE MARRIED! WE ARE LEGALLY MARRIED! We got congratulated by strangers as we walked out, unknowingly displaying genuine happiness as newlyweds.

Sealed our marriage legally by a heartfelt kiss! (Oct 15, 2015)

Although we may be crazy for getting married after knowing each other for only a short period of time, it was the best decision we had ever made. We are still getting to know each other everyday, and even though it is tough sometimes, we are strong and our love is undeniable.


Military Spouse Appreciation Day

Today is Military Spouse Appreciation Day. I’ve been blessed to be with the man of my dreams and the love of my life. He has served the U.S. Navy for 5 years now, and we have been married for one and a half year. Being a military spouse has made me realize how underappreciated wives/husbands of service members are. Often times, military spouse leave everything behind to be with their husband/wife. A lot of patience and responsibilities fall on the military spouse so their significant other can serve the country.

USS Harpers Ferry LSD-49 Homecoming (September 12, 2016)

In my experience as a military spouse, there has been ups and downs being married to a sailor. Half of my marriage was spent long distance because my husband was on deployment for 7 months. At that time, we’ve decided that I would stay with my family until he was back. I got myself a better paying job, made sure our savings account was growing, and arrange all the travel while focusing on new home search for us.  When homecoming came around, I left my job and family and moved from North Carolina to California to be with my husband. Finally, we were able to live together as husband and wife.

Distance from North Carolina to California (2452 miles)

A month after I moved, isolation and loneliness set in, especially when my husband has duty (24-hour shifts on the ship) and went underway (3-4 days out at sea). All the romantic thoughts of being married to a service member of the U.S. Military began to fade. While he was off serving the country, I cooked, clean, and made sure everything was in order so my husband won’t have to worry about a thing when he gets home. My pursuit of a career as a graphic designer subsided and my priority was to support my husband.

I wouldn’t change a thing about being a military spouse. The only thing I would have done differently was to give thanks to all the military spouses that have held their families together while their significant other was serving the country. They are the silent heroes. They are the one who defends the home front for many soldiers. They are a big part of America Strong. If you meet a military spouse, please give and show appreciation. Although it’s not easy for us as military spouse, it is definitely all worth it.