Deployment Care Package Must Haves!


Deployments are hard on both the family and the loved ones who are serving. By all means, I’m not an expert, but having experience deployment once before, I have learned a few things that are essential in care packages. Here are a list of items that are must-haves:


Any form of pictures, whether they are digital or print, are always good keepsakes for your loved one. Keep the pictures current with what you, your family, and friends have experience while your soldiers are deployed.

For videos, I put them on on a USB drive. Since social media has been a big part of many people’s daily lives, one thing you can do is include your own snapchat videos and stories. They are simple mini vlogs.

Movies/TV Shows

Oftentimes, there aren’t internet service overseas. To help loved ones pass by any down time they have while on deployment, movies and TV shows are always great gifts. I was able to download movies and TV shows that my husband enjoyed very much.

Dry Food

It is no secret that dry food is a must in care packages, but we have to keep in mind that some items are already available on base/ship where your loved one(s) are deployed. It’s good to ask ahead what your loved one wants, and what is not provided so you will know what is to give. Single serving dry food are best to give because they are quick and easy especially when there aren’t time to eat.

Drink Mixes

Plain ole water gets boring, so sending powder or liquid drink mixes are appreciated. It’s not as unhealthy as soda and more enjoyable than water. My husband definitely enjoyed the drink mixes that when he was finally home, it became part of our grocery list.

Sentimental Items

Items that reminds your deployed loved ones of home are great for care packages. Something that I custom made for my husband was a pillow with a picture of us together and a quote. It’s a great reminder to your loved ones that you are home waiting for them and praying for their safety. Smaller pocket items (keychain, dog tag, etc.) that can be carried around are ideal as well.


Anywhere that I went vacation to, I always remember to buy a souvenir so I can put in the care package to my husband. It says that even though you’re having fun, you’re thinking about them and wish they can enjoy the vacation with you.

Tips for Care Packages:

  • You can receive bundles of priority boxes/labels and custom mail forms for FREE by ordering them online: Click here for the direct link.
  • Always check for discounts, whether you’re a veteran or dependent. is a great resource. Click here for direct link.
  • A lot of online stores and vendors can send items directly to any deployed ship or overseas military base, but it’s always great to check first.
  • Themed care packages (Valentine’s, Easter, Anniversary, Birthdays, etc.) are always fun for both sender and receiver, but make sure to send them at least a month ahead of the event. It takes awhile for care packages to reach your loved ones so better sooner than later.
  • Take into consideration the packaging of the items you’re including in the care package. It is best for you to use all the space you can to tightly pack in the items or you’ll have to put in safety cushions. The care package will be sent a long way and you can’t tell how well it will be handled.
  • When it comes to any items, please check the expiration date before sealing and sending the care package.
  • The tracking of your care packages will stop at one point, especially if your loved one is deployed on a ship. Don’t stress it and whenever he/she has received the package, you will know.

Above all, keep the communication line open and be patient. The waiting game sucks, especially when both the sender and receiver are anticipating the delivery of the care package. At the end, it is all worth it.


It’s a GIRL! 💕 | Gender Reveal Photos

As I went in for my 18 weeks ultrasound, I was a nervous wreck. It was the day I found out if I’m having a boy or a girl. I have had a gut feeling that I was be carrying a girl, but my husband wanted a boy. Since my husband had to be out of town for work for a few days, I went to the appointment alone. I didn’t wait long before I was called into the back of the doctor’s office.

The ultrasound tech was scanning my belly, and then there I saw the baby’s two legs. The tech announced to me that I’m having a girl! I was beyond thrilled (even if I was having a boy, I would be too). I wanted to cry, but kept my cool as the tech as still scanning and taking photos for examination.

Later that day when I got home, I told my husband that I knew the gender and for him to wait until he gets home to find out. He was too eager, so we end up facetiming right before he went to work to tell him. He didn’t express much, but eventually got excited later on and was already picking out names for our baby girl.

We broke the news to anxious family and friends two days later. Everyone was thrilled, especially my family. My baby girl will be the first girl born in 6 years. My sisters who are mothers have mainly all had boys and now me having a baby girl gives them the opportunity to buy girl items. So far, I have not yet bought any baby girl items except for the newborn shoes for the gender reveal photos. My mother-in-law has already started a collection. 😊


How to Get Through Deployment While in a Relationship

Ever since United States’ tension with North Korea, the recent U.S. Navy shipwrecks, and Trump’s announcement of sending more troops to Afghanistan, I have been weary of the possibility of my husband being deployed. I am fortunate enough that I have been through one deployment with my husband, and know what life is like as a military spouse while he is away. Here are some tips of how you can get through a deployment with your significant other:

Have a Support Circle

When my husband was on deployment, I decided to stay with my family so I can have a support circle. Whenever I was going through a hard time, or just need someone to help me keep my mind off the fact that my husband was on deployment, my friends and family was there. I was able to console in them, and they were really supportive. It was also helpful to reach out to other military spouses who has been through a deployment.

Keep Yourself Busy

It was a great distraction to have family events almost every weekend, outing with friends, and a full-time job. Although my husband was always on my mind, keeping myself busy enable me to not constantly worry. I didn’t constantly sit in my own misery because I miss my husband.

Keep a Journal

Deployments can cause a strain in the relationship from time to time. Sometimes there are things that I wanted to discuss with my husband, but because I don’t want to cause him any stress, I wrote things down in a private journal. Relieving negative feelings and thoughts through writing was very cathartic and made me feel better.

Gather Items for Care Packages

One thing that I look forward to during my husband’s deployment was gathering items for care packages. In the care package, there were items my husband requested, letters, pictures, USB with videos, small presents, and surprises that I put together. It was fun, and there was always great anticipation when my husband received the packages. (Stay tune for a post about Care Package ideas)

Remain Positive and Strong

Deployments are no walk in the park. It can truly be a testament of how strong the relationship is. There will be tough times. Communication is super limited, which can run doubts and concerns through your mind. Just know that this temporary separation is with distance. The love for one another will always be there, as long as you are patient and resilient. Reassure each other as often of your love, and don’t let the negative thoughts overtake the relationship. Once the deployment is over, you both will be stronger than ever as a couple.

I know that deployment can be hard, but there are ways to cope with it. In no time, your loved one will be home with you. If you have experience deployment(s) with your significant other, what are your tips on how to get through it?

Surprise! We are pregnant!

I know I haven’t posted in a while, and that’s because recently I’ve found out that my husband and I are pregnant! On June 8, 2017, I surprised my husband that we are expecting! This will be our first child and we are thrilled to start our family. This baby is the first grandchild on my husband’s side of the family, and 10th grandchild on my side of the family.

Everyone was overjoyed to know that we are expecting and I have the feeling this baby is going to be super spoiled! We feel so blessed with this pregnancy and all the support from family and friends. Below I made a video compilation of me surprising my husband, and us surprising both our families.

Pregnancy Symptoms

For the past 3 months, the pregnancy took over my well-being. I had nausea, food aversions, bloating, constipation (sorry, TMI), exhaustion, and very low energy. I went from going to the gym 4-5 times a week to once a week. Instead of steadily gaining weight, I lost a good 5lbs.

I am now 15 weeks, and finally in my second trimester. I’m feeling great and my energy has come back. I am trying my best to gain back some weight and going to the gym more often. Overall, my baby is healthy and my pregnancy is progressing well.

Boy or Girl?

Our next appointment can possibly tell us the gender of our baby. Comment below what you think we are having, a boy or a girl?

My husband and I eloped!

One thing that my husband and I have in is that we both are hopeless romantics. Based on our past relationship experiences, I can tell that we both enjoy companionship and crave for long-lasting love. So when we first met, we had an instant connection. It was as if we knew that whatever we went through in the past, they have led us to one another. Mind you, my husband is from California and I’m from North Carolina.

Our first night together in San Diego, CA

Within a few months of us getting to know each other, my husband brought up marriage. I was shocked, excited, and confused all at once. I was shocked because “Damn, he fine! And he see me as wifey material?” I was excited because after multiple failed relationships, I finally I met someone who have the same goals, values, and experiences as me. I was confused because although I wanted to marry him, I was unsure of what the future holds for us. A couple of weeks into constantly thinking and talking to myself internally, I came up with one answer, “Why not?!”

At that time, “love” was a vague term for both my husband and me. We haven’t met in person yet, but knew that we wanted to marry each other. So we scheduled October 15, 2015 to get married at the courthouse and I booked my flight to California. October 10th, I set out my journey to finally meet my husband-to-be. I was nervous and excited. All that we have talked about and anticipated was about to come true.

After a few days of getting to each other and spending time together, he “proposed” to me at Balboa Park the day before our ceremony at the courthouse. It was at night and he was acting quite awkward. I was giving him a hard time right before we arrive, but he handled it well and pulled off the proposal. Although I saw it coming, it a nice surprised and weirdly romantic. We both laughed it off and knew that we were definitely meant to be.

The next day, we got ready and went to the courthouse. The anticipation was settling in, and the only thing that ran through my mind was “Wow, I’m crazy. We both are crazy!” Throughout the ceremony, we both were giggling and smiling in awe that we both are actually doing this. In no time, the ceremony was over. Like what?!?!?!? WE ARE MARRIED! WE ARE LEGALLY MARRIED! We got congratulated by strangers as we walked out, unknowingly displaying genuine happiness as newlyweds.

Sealed our marriage legally by a heartfelt kiss! (Oct 15, 2015)

Although we may be crazy for getting married after knowing each other for only a short period of time, it was the best decision we had ever made. We are still getting to know each other everyday, and even though it is tough sometimes, we are strong and our love is undeniable.

Military Spouse Appreciation Day

Today is Military Spouse Appreciation Day. I’ve been blessed to be with the man of my dreams and the love of my life. He has served the U.S. Navy for 5 years now, and we have been married for one and a half year. Being a military spouse has made me realize how underappreciated wives/husbands of service members are. Often times, military spouse leave everything behind to be with their husband/wife. A lot of patience and responsibilities fall on the military spouse so their significant other can serve the country.

USS Harpers Ferry LSD-49 Homecoming (September 12, 2016)

In my experience as a military spouse, there has been ups and downs being married to a sailor. Half of my marriage was spent long distance because my husband was on deployment for 7 months. At that time, we’ve decided that I would stay with my family until he was back. I got myself a better paying job, made sure our savings account was growing, and arrange all the travel while focusing on new home search for us.  When homecoming came around, I left my job and family and moved from North Carolina to California to be with my husband. Finally, we were able to live together as husband and wife.

Distance from North Carolina to California (2452 miles)

A month after I moved, isolation and loneliness set in, especially when my husband has duty (24-hour shifts on the ship) and went underway (3-4 days out at sea). All the romantic thoughts of being married to a service member of the U.S. Military began to fade. While he was off serving the country, I cooked, clean, and made sure everything was in order so my husband won’t have to worry about a thing when he gets home. My pursuit of a career as a graphic designer subsided and my priority was to support my husband.

I wouldn’t change a thing about being a military spouse. The only thing I would have done differently was to give thanks to all the military spouses that have held their families together while their significant other was serving the country. They are the silent heroes. They are the one who defends the home front for many soldiers. They are a big part of America Strong. If you meet a military spouse, please give and show appreciation. Although it’s not easy for us as military spouse, it is definitely all worth it.